I am a single father in my early 40s. Last year, I was introduced to a woman who lives 60 miles away. The chemistry was instant. "Amelia" is in her late 30s and has four children. Although the distance made dating somewhat difficult, we always managed to get together at least once a week.

After a year, I asked Amelia to marry me, and she accepted. I was elated. However, in the past few months, things have changed. Amelia used to drive to my town once a month, so I could have a break from making the trip. Now she refuses to come here. She says it's too difficult. She also has told me not to call her at home before 9 p.m. because it will interfere with her time with the children, and not to call her at work, either.

Lately, when we go out to eat, she has been very picky and will only go to her favorite places. On the rare occasion when I am allowed to select the restaurant, she acts put out. She won't see any movies I like, either. By the way, I don't expect her to pay for any of this, but she has never offered -- not even on my birthday. Her mother told me flat out that I was disposable, and if I wanted to be in a relationship with her daughter, I should be prepared to do all the work, with nothing in return.

Amelia recently announced that our one-night-a-week is no longer exclusive and she wants the option of going out with her friends instead. I would do anything for this woman, but I am a bit hurt. Amelia says she loves me, but I'm feeling used. She says I am too sensitive. What do you say?

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