Message ID: 2jtb15F15sabiU1@uni-berlin.de
My parents and I have problems with the teenage boy next door. He and his friends play street hockey in front of our house. We once politely asked them to move their hockey net off the street when we wanted to get into our driveway. They felt offended.
They've been damaging our property on purpose, such as destroying our hedges. We've spoken to his father, but he was little help and isn't around much. Recently we discovered a long scratch on the side of our car, and strongly suspect that boy.
- NEIGHBOR SQUABBLE
DEAR NEIGHBOR:
If honey doesn't work, send in the bees. Someone in the family needs to speak nicely to the boys, saying that street hockey is fine but people need use of their own driveway, so how about calling a truce, sharing some cold drinks, and starting a fresh good-neighbor relationship.
If your family experiences further vandalism, speak to the father and-or mother, explain you've tried to make peace and must now turn to the police. Then do so.
The police will likely only record the first incident, unless you witness an offense. If so, ask that they come out and speak to the youth.
While the advice given to you is well and good, I respectfully suggest that you are "not on the same page".
You have already spoken to the boy, politely. You have spoken to one of his parental units who is plainly disinterested. It is now time to show that you have a few fangs.
First: Call the police and make a report. Make sure that teen sprog sees you.
Second: Get a security camera, and record all the activity.
Third: When you have the evidence you need, turn it over to the police and press charges.
That should get the attention of all concerned. Breeders of that ilk usually only pay attention when it effects their wallets.
You can, if you feel magnanimous (and should they offer) give them a chance to make restitution.
Childfree Abby
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