Childfree Abby - Here's A Thought28 April 2005Message ID: 4270e4cb$1_2@x-privat.org
DEAR ELLIE: I've been living with my lady for four years; I have two kids with her, and a third one is on the way. She's three months pregnant, but lately I feel our relationship has gone cold; she gives me an attitude about everything. She gets mad about any little thing that goes on in the house. Even with my kids she gets mad and frustrated. I honestly don't want to be the one to get tired of her attitude because of my kids and because I love her, of course, but I can only take so much. What can I do to work this out? -- FRUSTRATED DEAR FRUSTRATED: Try this: Close your eyes and imagine yourself feeling drained of energy and nauseated, while being responsible for two youngsters and trying to keep a household and everyone's schedules running smoothly -- oh, yes, and being pleasant to everyone around. It's called putting yourself in another's shoes and I'm sure if you do it, you'll see how a hard-pressed "attitude" emerges. I'm not saying it's easy for you to handle the cold shoulder from her, but maybe if you let her lean on your shoulder more -- tell her how much you love her (not, "of course"), and help with the kids and house -- she'll feel less overwhelmed. However, if it doesn't work, both of you need to talk to a couples' counselor together, before the hectic needs of a new baby hit the scene.
Pregnant 'attitude' makes guy wonder if things have cooled
Dear Frustrated Let me ask you something: Have either of you two geniuses ever heard of birth control? It really is an amazing concept, you know. You can have sex, and it doesn't result in babies. According to your letter, you have been together for 4 years - that's 48 months. In that time, your girlfriend will have been pregnant for about (counting #3) 27 months of that. Combine that, now with two children under the age of 4 (soon to be 3), and you have to wonder why she is giving you "attitude"? Buddy, the reason for that that should be as plain as the dick in your pants. I don't know - maybe she likes the idea of popping kids out out of a "salad shooter cooter". Or maybe, Studly, you like the idea of being "El Producto" because it shores up some sort of macho image. You want her to stop giving you "attitude"? This is what you do: Stop having kids, and work with the ones you have.
Childfree Abby - stating the obvious - again
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