Childfree Abby - A 20 Cent bullet09 October 2005Message ID: 11kic3pakbj0uc9@news.supernews.com
DEAR ABBY: I have always been an animal lover. I have had a peek-a-poo, "Flopsy," for 12 years. She's the last of my pets, and loves me as much as I love her. Flopsy was hit by a car and her hip was fractured. Now I must confine her to our house until she's well. My fiance, "Lenny," complains I have spent too much money at the vet on her. Lenny says he can put a 20-cent bullet in her and solve the problem. Of course, I would never permit it, nor will I do anything like that. Flopsy doesn't bother him. She always stays in the same room as me no matter where I go. I have no demanding chores in my life, so I don't see the harm. Do you think I should put her out of her misery? Am I being selfish? -- ANIMAL LOVER IN GEORGIA
DEAR ANIMAL LOVER: You're asking me something that should be discussed with Flopsy's veterinarian. If, at her age, she can regain her health and mobility and frolic again, I see no reason to euthanize her. If she can't, then it might be the kind thing to do. Something else in your letter concerns me, however. The relationship you have with Flopsy apparently does "bother" your fiance. I suspect that he resents the love you have for her and the time and attention you lavish on her. To have suggested "putting a bullet in her" shows he has a cruel streak. If you are wise, you will think long and hard before marrying someone like that.
Dear Animal Lover First, this matter is not about your choice of how to care for your pet. This is about the so-called "man" in your life. This thing is your fiance? Face the fact, "Lenny" is a complete jerk and should be dumped faster than you can say "Kibbles and Bits". He is displaying a complete and utter callous disregard for something for which you care deeply, and time isn't going to make him any better. I see this a bit differently than my esteemed counterpart - did you know that one of the signs of an abuser is to threaten beloved pets? This he has done, however obliquely. I would not feel comfortable leaving this man alone with your dog, or anything you happen to value. The next time he brings up the "20 cent bullet", say "yeah, a 20 cent bullet would solve a lot of things, now pack your bags, and get the hell out of my home and don't ever bother coming back." Then lock the door behind him, in every sense of the word.
Childfree Abby
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