Childfree Abby - A Raving Loon20 April 2006Message ID: 124f7kqgh8osnb4@news.supernews.com
Dear Annie: I've known "Rayna" for 14 months. In fact, I dated her for nearly a year. But she is playing with my mind. She's all nice to me one moment, and the next, she's saying she never wants to talk to me again. I still love Rayna, but my family and friends say I should find a new girlfriend to get her off my mind. What should I do? -- Mixed Up Dear Mixed Up: Rayna enjoys playing games with your head because it gives her power over you. It also means she is still interested in you, but we'd avoid anyone whose idea of romance is seeing how high she can make you jump. Ignore her completely and she will stop.
Dear Mixed Up: You love Rayna. However, the question does arise, does Rayna love you? I would say - given the above - probably not. My esteemed counterpart says that "she is still interested in you". However, this does beg the question: What exactly is she interested in about you? My feeling is this: either Rayna is in love with the idea of having some patsy who she can treat like crap and still have him running whenever she snaps her fingers, or Rayna is a raving loon and a Drama Queen. I offer up that the only thing Rayna is in love with is herself. I disagree with my esteemed counterpart. This is not "romance"; this is an abusive relationship and you are the victim. I doubt that my esteemed counterpart would give the same sort of advice to a woman that she gave to you. The tone of the letter suggests to me that you are male. Even if you are not, the relationship is still abusive. For the sake of your sanity, end this relationship. The next time Rayna says she never wants to speak to you again, the only appropriate answer is "don't let the door hit you on the ass". Then stick to it. Don't, as your friends suggest, rush into another relationship before you are good and ready. It is not fair to any potential partner, and you will be less likely to get involved with someone who treats you like dirt.
Childfree Abby
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