Childfree Abby - Holy Trailer Park, Batman!28 May 2006Message ID: 127jc82e6368439@news.supernews.com
DEAR ABBY: I'll get right to the point. I have fallen in love with my sister's boyfriend and he with me, so he says. We have been lovers from the first moment we realized our feelings for each other were mutual, and have been hiding them from my sister ever since. "Greg" is not only handsome, but he listens to whatever I say, takes it into thoughtful consideration and gives me honest feedback. I have tried to let him go and found it quite impossible. He is the most precious thing in my life and he has my whole heart. Since this has been going on, I have become more and more confused about how I should act, what I should say and do. However, my love for Greg grows. I don't want to hurt my sister, but we were never very close to begin with. Is this relationship worth my pain and great love? -- LITTLE SISTER IN NEW HAMPSHIRE DEAR LITTLE SISTER: Let's get right to the point. The man you have fallen in love with lacks integrity. He is your sister's boyfriend, and he's juggling both of you. The longer the sneaking around continues, the greater your chances that it will be discovered. And when it is, it will cause a rift in your family and Greg will head for the hills. My advice to you is to end it NOW.
Abigail Van Buren
Dear Little Sister, While you say you live in New Hampshire, this whole situation smacks of a stereotypical trailerpark situation somewhere deep in the heart of NASCAR country. (or and episode of Trailer Park Boys) Screwing around with someone else's boyfriend or husband is never a good idea. Screwing around with your sister's boyfriend catapults you far beyond "never a good idea" and deep into the realm of "complete and utter idiot". Let me ask you something: If "Greg" was such an upstanding hunk of man with such sterling qualities, how come he hasn't ended his relationship with your sister so that two of you can pursue this so called "relationship" in an open and honest manner? It doesn't matter a ragged rodent's rectum that you and your sister "have never been close". He is still involved with someone else, and that someone else is your sister. Now, I don't believe for one moment that an "accident of birth" magically bestows upon the individuals involved great bonds of love, friendship and loyalty. It is quite possible, and more often than people want to admit, that people who happen to be related to each other detest each other. Be that as it may, screwing around with your sister's boyfriend is foolish beyond measure and simply ethically wrong. If indeed, the feelings that you supposedly share were so strong and mutual, there is no reason whatsoever for him not to call it quits with your sister. None. Nada. Zip. It is better to make a clean break with the other party and get on with your lives. So, I ask the question again, why has he not ended the relationship with your sister? I'll tell you why: because he doesn't love you, he doesn't love her, and he has the both of you to get his rocks off. No matter how you protest to the contrary, this is not "thoughtful consideration" and you can bet your sweet bippy there is no "honest feedback". Loverboy Greg can read you like a book and is simply telling you what you want to hear in order to get into your pants. As my esteemed counterpart said, and I agree, when this comes out as inevitably it will, you won't see Loverboy for dust, and you will be left holding the bag.
Childfree Abby
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