Childfree Abby - Genitalia, Genitalia21 December 2006Message ID: 12ol95t4jbh921f@news.supernews.com
DEAR ELLIE: My wife of nine years cheated on me -- I think with two guys. She and I used to have a lot of sex and watch a lot of porn videos. But years ago, though I'm an average-sized guy sexually, I noticed she starting admiring bigger guys. I asked her to tell me the truth and I said I'd forgive her, but she kept yelling and denied the cheating. I was suicidal, but stopped because of our children. It has been 11 months since she cheated. She treats me badly. I feel like having sex all the time but not with her. I never touch her. I'm so depressed. I want to wait until my kids are older, then I'll divorce her. DEAR STANDOFF: You owe it to your children and yourself to deal with your depression: See your doctor and seek referral to a counselor who'll help you explore what's behind your belief that your wife's cheating is all about penis size. Even if she is truly that shallow, you need to rebuild your self-confidence in order to plan for your future and that of your children.
Dear Standoff, I've read and re-read your letter, and I have to ask you something: Do you have any proof your wife actually cheated on you? What I see here are a lot of accusations, and no confirmations. Your letter said "I think" and she has denied it, rather vehemently, so it would seem. Now, I am not saying she didn't, but the way your letter is worded really makes me wonder if this is the case or whether her alleged "cheating" is a projection of your own insecurity. You say your wife treats you badly. I suspect that constantly being accused of cheating probably isn't doing much for her either. Let me clue you in on something - women aren't nearly as hung up on penis size as you seem to think they are. Here is a clue for you: real life is not portrayed on a porn video. If you are getting the idea that you have to be hung like an equine, then, maybe you should stop watching the porn videos, get over this obsession with your own genitalia and get a grip on reality.
Childfree Abby
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